Thriving in motherhood

A recent UK study found that mothers are 18% more stressed than other people.

This comes as no surprise considering the many hats we wear, the pressure to ‘have it all’, social media comparisons and the mental load we carry 24/7.

This makes mothers more susceptible to burn out, increased anxiety and feeling a loss of connection to not only themselves but their children and partner too.

Mothers need to be given a supportive, non-judgmental and nurturing space to be able to reset, recharge and reconnect with themselves in order to feel their best.

It’s like when they tell you in the safety spiel on flights, you must fit your own oxygen mask first before assisting others. Look after your own needs first, fill up your tank so you can give your best for your kids, family, friends and work.

Scheduling regular self care and face to face connection is vital for reducing burn out, anxiety and stress.

There’s no one-size fits all when it comes to self care. It’s very individual and needs to be something that you know will make you feel better. It shouldn’t feel time consuming or feel like a chore.

Self care could be anything from watching The Bachelor, reading a magazine or book, knitting, going for a walk, painting your nails or dancing.

Face to face connection is crucial for mothers. The motherhood village seems to have slowly disappeared in the modern world leaving mothers feeling more lonely and isolated than ever.

Having a safe space to share their fears, anxiety, hopes and get different ideas and suggestions helps mothers to strengthen their mindset and build their confidence in their motherhood journey.

Here are 3 steps to take to thrive in motherhood:

  1. Schedule in self-care and time to yourself to do things that recharge you. Something just for you. 
  2. Reach out to others and make an effort to see them face to face. This can feel hard to do when you haven’t had much sleep or don’t feel like getting dressed and going out but find your tribe, find the people who are supportive, don’t care what you wear and don’t care where you meet. 
  3. As my 6 year old daughter says, ‘everyone is allowed to feel their feelings’. So feel your feelings and allow yourself to feel all the emotions that comes with motherhood and show yourself compassion and kindness because we are all on the same journey and we are all trying to be the best mother to our children.

These 3 steps are just a starting point to helping you thrive as a mum. Try them out and let me know how you go.